So you were wondering what can you say around someone with Bipolar Depression? I already gave you 6 things to avoid around a depressed loved one, here are 8 things you can do to help ease the situation.
- Be respectful. “I don’t know exactly what you’re going through, but I would like to know. What are you feeling?” When you preface a tough question with a respectful statement, you gain credibility with them, instead of going right into their business without acknowledging their situation.
- Ask and then listen. “Did someone say or do something that is making you feel this way?” There has to be a reason why they are feeling the way they do. Don’t ask these right off the bat, as you need to establish trust with them first.
- Express your love. “I care for you.” When you’ve tried to reach through to them and prying for answers by question doesn’t work, simply express your concern.
- Have compassion. “I am concerned and want to work with you on this.” Get with the program. This is tough stuff – having clinical BP Depression. It’s not a switch to flip or choice to make. Empathize with them.
- Be positive. “There is a way out, and though it doesn’t feel like this will end, it will.” Keep looking up and encourage them there is hope. They need hope even though they may not believe its there. Reassure them it is.
- Be honest. “This is not easy, it’s hard.” No need to sugar-coat, but don’t be cold about it either. They may be in danger and suicidal mindsets follow closely to a bad cycle of depression. Telling them the truth is a way to build their trust in you, so long as you mean what you say.
- Be a friend to them. “I really appreciate you.” Remind them of their personality, their impact on you, their positive traits. When someone is in the throes of depression they forget who they are, and still are. They have an identity and may need to be reminded of it.
- Pray for them. In fact, I don’t think it hurts to pray with them either, if they’re comfortable with you. There is power in prayer, especially in Jesus’ name. For it’s by His stripes we are healed (1 Peter 2:24). Claim it and believe it.